“The purpose of a relationship is to nurture. I nurture you. You nurture me.”
Dr. Denny Thompson
Grow Your
Love Intelligence
Much like plants, people have unique requirements to not just grow, but flourish. Love Intelligence means understanding and meeting those specific requirements.
What do you need to feel loved? What do your loved ones need?
They’re not the same. When you correct the mistake of giving what you need and getting what they need, relationships heal and love grows.
Twelve Ways of
Love
CONVERSATION
Conversation helps you make distinctions about who you are and who we are together. It is not just listening. I inform you, you inform me. Then I can feel safe. I can be stimulated. I can grow. When you don’t have it and you need it, life is bland and quite lonely even if there is someone sitting next to you on the couch.
PHYSICAL TOUCH
Touch: is very real tactile stimulation. Touch is about transmitting and receiving feelings. Touch gives perception of objects. Touch is about connecting with physiology. It is the relationship that most directly stimulates our brain.
WORDS OF PRAISE
Words of Praise means to give applause to someone. It means to let them know you have approval, respect and regard for them. It is about giving appreciation to someone for the little and the big things in life.
ORGANIZING FOR PERFECTION
Organizing for Perfection means to make things established and coordinated. It is about being systematized, directed, adjusted, standardized, assigned, in good form, in its place, put away, orderly, in sequence, arranged, prepared, made ready, settled, planned, formed, fashioned, shaped, projected, designed, harmonized, associated, classified, related.
TIME TOGETHER
Time Together means being united, connected, at one with, in unison, joined. Being together is at the heart of the idea of partnership. If you have issues of being abandoned, then time together has much greater meaning for you.
MAGIC, MYSTERY & WONDER
Magic, Mystery and Wonder means enchantment, prophecy, alchemy, the unusual, the enigmatic. The magical is where some people live, some people just visit, and others are afraid to go. If you are a mystical sort of person, you might talk to your plants, know what a chakra is and are into transforming the world.
LISTENING
Listening means to attend to, to keep one’s ears open, to be attentive to, to monitor, to give attention to, to hear. Listening is being a good audience. It is about getting someone. When you give acknowledgement, it means you have listened to who they are.
SHARING
Sharing means to divide, to apportion, to allot, to distribute. It also means to dispense, to assign, to partake of, to take part in, to receive and have a portion of. Sharing is about taking what you have and dividing it so you and someone else can use it. It can also be about sharing a vision together.
TEACHING
Teaching means to tutor, to coach, to instruct, to educate, to profess, to explain to, to expound, to lecture, to direct, to give a briefing, to edify, to enlighten, and to guide. It can also mean to show how, to give lessons in, to ground, to rear, to prepare, to interpret, to instill, to indoctrinate, to initiate, to inform, to nurture, and to illustrate.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Service means to obey the call of duty, to fulfill an obligation, to assume one’s responsibilities. Being of Service is being able to help someone. When you are of service you can wait on someone, or attend to them, or provide for them. It’s when you carry out duties for others, to meet their needs.
PROTECTION
Protection means to shield from danger and injury, to defend one’s self and others. It means to watch over and safeguard another. Protection is to care for, to make secure, to shelter, to harbor, to screen, to cherish.
GIFTS
Gifts means to endow someone, to bequeath to them, to reward them. Gifts are tangible offerings, usually in physical form, that demonstrate a feeling of appreciation for something done. When given, a gift says I value you. When received, a gift says you value me.
Love Intelligence Is For…
Couples
End struggles, repair hurt, build understanding and grow love that lasts for life.
Parents & Kids
“Love your child into being” by meeting their unique needs even before they can express them.
Family
Heal old patterns and finally have the parent, sibling and family relationships you’ve longed for.
Friends & Colleagues
In less intimate relationships, Love Intelligence helps you connect, support and work effectively together.
Yourself
Gain self understanding & meet your need to be nurtured, improving health and well-being.
Everyone
There are no limits. You can use Love Intelligence with anyone you want to relate well with.
The Roots Of Love Intelligence
Dr. Denny Thompson derived The Twelve Ways of Love in the early 2000’s from his work counseling couples in his holistic medical practice. Each represents a unique way we can be wired to prefer specific behaviors in our relationships. The right behaviors for us engage our brain’s reward systems, making us feel loved and secure.
When combined with his understanding of Yoga, Ayurveda, Neurology and Vedic Astrology, the Twelve Ways of Love offer a complete biological + spiritual understanding of human flourishing.
We’ve now shared over 10,000 Love Intelligence Code reports, healing hearts and mending relationships.
Why It Works
We’re built for love
As a social species, humans are wired for interdependence. Love Intelligence gets under the hood to show you your own and others’ wiring, helping you nurture and be nurtured to fulfill your potential for healthy, thriving relationships.
We’re not always self-aware
With many personality tests or relationship systems, you need to understand your own traits and motivations — something people can be surprisingly bad at! Your Love Intelligence Code is different. It’s drawn from details about when and where you were born. According to ancient wisdom, these determine your unique neurobiology and way of relating.
We haven’t been taught this, but we can learn
In our mind-dominant culture, we don’t always teach kids about the true foundation of health and happiness: strong, loving relationships. The good news is that we’re designed for this, so you can learn Love Intelligence at any age.
The Love-Health Connection
In one of the longest studies ever run on adult development, Harvard found that the key to good health and long life is happiness in relationships. In fact, loneliness and poor relationships were worse than smoking or drinking! If you want to improve your health, start with your relationships.
Love Intelligence Transformations
These relationship explorers worked with their Love Intelligence Codes plus the Relationship Medicine workbook and workshop.
IT ALL STARTS WITH YOUR
Love Intelligence Code
Build secure and happy relationships based on each person’s unique Way of Love.
What’s yours?
Go Deeper with Love Intelligence
Learning your Love Intelligence Code is just the start of what you can do with this life-transforming information.
Frequently Asked
Questions
What’s the best place to begin?
To start, you’ll need your unique Love Intelligence code so you’ll know how you best receive love. If you want to work on a specific relationship, it’s best to get the Love Intelligence code of the other person as well. Get your code.
What if I don’t know the exact time or location of my birth?
You can find out 1 of your Ways of Love by only knowing your birth date. It’s best to get the exact birth time to determine the accuracy of your Love Intelligence Report. If you don’t know, you can get a consult with Dr. Shamanie to delve deeper into your 4 Ways of Love.
How will I receive my code?
Your Love Intelligence code will be emailed as a beautifully-designed digital report within 48 hours. It will contain your top four Ways of Love along with detailed information about each Way.
What if I want help working with the Love Intelligence codes?
For some people, the Love Intelligence code report provides all the insight they need to begin working on their relationships. For deeper understanding and transformation, we offer a guided workbook, 1-1 coaching, workshops and retreats.
How does this relate to Love Languages?
Dr. Denny Thompson was inspired by the beautiful work of Gary Chapman outlined in The 5 Love Languages. In applying those concepts to his work with couples in his holistic medicine practice, he discovered a broader total of 12 Ways of Love that cover the full range of human love. Each Way corresponds to ancient systems in Ayurvedic Medicine and Vedic Astrology that point to different inherent neurobiological variations. In working with the 12 Ways, he determined that the top 4 Ways most closely correspond to a person’s biology and make most of the difference in their experience of love. That’s why the Love Intelligence code contains your top 4 Ways of Love. Before his passing, Dr. Thompson had determined the Love Intelligence codes of and shared this transformative work with over 10,000 people.
